I’m really into first-hand stories lately. Everyone loves a good story, but I think I’ve also been blessed to find a lot of great stories about careers lately. Today’s story is about someone (left anonymous) who was searching for a job through a recruiter and then chose not to take the job.
First time in my life I’m being called ‘dishonest’ and ‘highly deceptive’ by a RECRUITER, for turning down a job offer that he approached me with. I was fully committed during the whole interview process because my current company was nowhere near to offering me a permanent position which I badly needed. FYI I served there for almost 2 yrs. But when I told them I’m leaving, they gave me a competitive counteroffer. So I stayed there mainly due to location convenience involving family reasons.
Anyways, I apologized to the recruiter like million times, but he didn’t stop badmouthing me. My question to all people out there, can you tell me what I did wrong? I stayed transparent to him during the whole process.
I’m sure this was a devastating moment for the recruiter who is likely getting paid based on the person taking the job. So, I partially understand the recruiter’s response. However, it’s never good to make your clients feel like they’re being “dishonest” and “highly deceptive.”
Of course, we’re only hearing one side of the story. Maybe the recruiter would have another perspective which would make us think otherwise. However, this story really highlights the key to any relationship: communication and transparency.
If the job seeker isn’t transparent with the recruiter and the potential employer, then the recruiter would have plenty of reasons to be upset. However, even then it might not be in the recruiter’s best interest to get upset. You don’t want to burn bridges that you might need later. In this case, it seems like he was open and transparent about his intent. The counteroffer came and the potential company lost the bidding war.
What do you think of this situation? Should the job seeker have approached it differently?